How to Cope When You Suspect a Loved One Is Struggling with Substance Use Disorder (SUD)

When someone you care about shows signs of struggling with substance use, it can stir up a whirlwind of emotions—worry, confusion, fear, frustration, even guilt. At Revive Recovery, we understand how difficult it is to watch someone you love battle with something that feels so far out of your control. While you can't fix everything for them, your support, understanding, and patience can make a powerful difference.

Here are some compassionate, practical steps you can take when you suspect a loved one is suffering from Substance Use Disorder (SUD):

1. Educate Yourself About SUD

Substance Use Disorder is not a moral failing or a lack of willpower. It's a complex, chronic disease that affects the brain, behavior, and decision-making. Understanding the science behind addiction helps reduce judgment and allows you to respond with empathy instead of anger.

Resources to explore:

• SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration)

• National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA)

• Local organizations like Revive Recovery can provide guidance and educational materials tailored to your community.

2. Look for Warning Signs

While every person’s experience is unique, common indicators of SUD may include:

• Changes in mood or behavior

• Withdrawing from social or family activities

• Decline in work or school performance

• Secretiveness or dishonesty

• Unexplained financial problems

• Physical changes (weight loss, poor hygiene, unusual sleep patterns)

• Trust your gut. If something feels off, it’s okay to acknowledge that and seek support.

3. Approach with Compassion, Not Confrontation

It's natural to feel frustrated or scared, but accusatory language can push someone further away. Try starting a conversation with love, curiosity, and without judgment:

“I’ve noticed some changes lately and I’m really worried about you. I love you and I want to help if I can.”

Be prepared for denial, defensiveness, or anger—it’s part of the process. Stay grounded and open-hearted.

4. Set Healthy Boundaries

Supporting someone through addiction doesn’t mean tolerating harmful behavior.

It’s okay to:

• Say no to enabling behaviors (like giving money or covering up consequences)

• Protect your mental and physical health

• Seek therapy or peer support for yourself

• Boundaries are not ultimatums—they’re acts of self-respect and clarity.

5. Encourage Professional Help

You are not alone, and your loved one doesn’t have to be either. Gently encourage them to seek help from a professional, whether it’s a counselor, treatment center, or a peer-based recovery support service like Revive Recovery.

Offer to help them make the call, go with them to an appointment, or research options together. Sometimes that small gesture is the lifeline they need.

6. Take Care of Yourself, Too

Loving someone with SUD can be emotionally draining. You might feel powerless or even guilty. But your well-being matters. Seek out support groups like Al-Anon, Nar-Anon, or individual counseling. Connect with others who’ve walked a similar path.

At Revive Recovery, we also offer family support services because we know that addiction affects everyone—not just the person using substances.

7. Hold Onto Hope

Recovery is possible. People do heal, rebuild their lives, and repair relationships. The path may be winding, with setbacks and victories, but your belief in your loved one can be a powerful motivator.

Stay hopeful, stay informed, and remember: you don’t have to do this alone.

We're Here for You

At Revive Recovery, we provide free, compassionate, and community-based support for individuals and families impacted by substance use. If you're navigating the unknowns of loving someone with SUD, reach out. We'll walk with you—judgment-free, every step of the way.

📍 Visit us, call us, or connect online. You are not alone.